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Waiting for a response to an email you sent on Adult FriendFinder can be agonizing - especially if you're horny. You wait, wait, check your inbox, wait, check your inbox, wait some more - repeat nine hundred times. Whoever said anticipation is sweet is full of it, because it's pure agony.

But what do you do when that much anticipated response never comes? Move on? Harass the person until they finally get freaked out and block you? Give up sex and join a convent? Before you do anything as drastic as swearing celibacy, check out these expert tips for writing emails that'll stack the deck in your favor!

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1. Thoroughly read profiles before making contact. Note we said thorough, don't just skim through looking for hottie photos. If you read carefully, you'll know if you're what the person is looking for and vice versa, saving yourself a lot of time in the process. If you're a single guy and a profile says "No single men," chances are your message will be deleted immediately, so it's best to just move on to someone who IS looking for what you have to offer.

If you decide you are compatible and want to send a message, include a line that shows you read the profile; people generally appreciate the effort, and will reciprocate.

2. Don't send a form letter as a first message. If you can't take the time to personalize a simple introductory message, why should anyone take the time to respond? Yes, it's hard to personalize an email for everyone, but you don't have to write a flippin' novel - just a few original sentences will suffice. If you have a favorite quote or details about yourself you'd like to share, create a signature, which will appear at the bottom of every outgoing message.

3. Be honest! The Internet is a great place to fantasize about the person you want to be, but if you're talking to someone you plan on meeting face to face at some point, honesty really is the best policy. This seems like a no brainer, but there are a lot of people out there who'll show up to a first meeting hoping the other person will be so horny they won't notice that you're not really a 19-year-old underwear model. In most cases, this is a total deal breaker, and not only will you have wasted their time and yours, your ego will earn a serious bruising.

4. Keep the first email short and sweet. Tell your prospective hookup about yourself and let them know you're interested - but get right to the point. I once had a guy go on and on about how his ex-wife is a cheating whore who's trying to "take him to the cleaners." That's WAY too much information for a first email, and I didn't even want to finish reading the message, let alone respond to it!

5. Get Standard Contacts! Standard members are pretty limited in whom they can email - but with our Standard Contacts option, they can email you at anytime! It's a great way to open your pool and tap into some of those hotties who may not be able to afford a Premium account!

6. Don't abbreviate too many words. An abbreviation here and there is okay, but if a person needs a decoder ring to figure out what the hell you're trying to say, chances are they'll just hit the delete button. Something like "u are so hot!" or "I would luv 2 meet u!" is fine, but if the entire email reads like a text message composed by your 13-year-old niece, you're just going to annoy the hell out of ppl. OMG LOL!

7. Sell yourself without sounding like a douchebag. Yes, you're pretty awesome and you want prospective hookups to know that. But if you're writing an extensive tribute to the miraculous wonder that is yourself, you'll come off as self-centered. If you're a successful lawyer with a huge wang, say so - but don't brag about how you were first in your class at Harvard, and how your new Mercedes is a pussy magnet. Remember, you want to engage people with your message, not make them roll their eyes.

8. Use the right pictures! People like to know who they're talking to. Even if you're not into showing your face, which is totally understandable, attach some photos of your best features, like your torso, legs or even your ass. And photos of you DOING stuff are even better. One of the best emails I ever got was from a guy who told me about his hobbies, and included pictures of him actually doing the things he talked about - including nude water skiing (seriously). I responded to him immediately because that made him stand out, and to this day we still hookup from time to time.

9. And on that note... Yes, crotch shots can work, but don't use them as the ONLY photo you send. We already know you have genitals because, you're human and we all have them. There's no need to send pics of your freshly shorn clam box from all different angles, and a person can only take so many dick pics before they all start to look alike. I'm not saying don't send them at all - after all this is a hookup site and we wanna know what you're working with, especially if you have an unusually large cock or a spectacular landing strip. Just be sure to include some other shots too, so we don't feel like we're talking directly to your nether-regions.

10. End with a question. Ending an email abruptly with something like "write back if you're interested" isn't engaging. Asking questions will prompt your future hookup to respond. If a persons profile says they're into bondage, ask them something like "I see you're into bondage, me too! How long have you been in the lifestyle?" Easy, right?

Now take this advice and go get some for cryin'out loud!